Wow, it’s so easy to be judgmental. Take some time to really pray for her. I understand that you want to reach out to her and tell her of God’s love for her despite her unbelief. Pray for yourself that you would not be judgmental and you would love all the sinners but hate the sin. Pray that Christians in general will not look down on someone because they are different or had done some things wrong.
Be like Jesus: love your sister and really take some time out of your daily routine lifestyle and hang out with her. Show her that you are not the judge and God is. Do sister stuff with her, like painting nails, putting on make-up, shopping, sports, drawing, watching a movie, eating lunch, hanging out, ect ect. Whatever you guys like to do. Show her that you care for her because you love her. Let her know by your actions and words that you will love her and care for her despite her faults. Pray for her relationship with Jesus and by your love, your sister may come to know Christ again.
I’m praying for you guys and your family. Let me know if you ever need to talk about it more. I love you guys and may the Lord guide your heart to know what to do. I pray that God will give your sister the courage and strength to overcome this storm in her life right now.
Don’t feel that way at all. My youth leader has been a Christian all her life. She goes to church and nothing really dramatic ever happened in her life. When we went on a missions trip, someone asked her how she came to know Jesus.
She said, “Oh I was born in a Christian family and I’ve been a Christian all my life.”
The Navajo lady was amazed. She never met anyone before who didn’t have a dramatic story about how Jesus changed their life. The story really impacted her.
Our God is an amazingly awesome God. He can use anyone and anything to His will and for His glory. Don’t every think that you are not unique enough to be used by our God. Nobody is too small, or too normal. We are different for our own purposes. Whether it is too be a good example or to share our bad experiences, God can use us all. Just be patient.
God has certainly chosen to bless you to not have to go through anything too harsh that many others may have gone through. But that doesn’t make you more or less than anyone that has. Everyone’s so different and their lives are so diverse because God wanted to take the time to create each and everyone of us in His own special way. Regardless, we all have a purpose and that is to bring glory to God! God will certainly use you for His wonderful plans. He loves you and loves us all. <3
-your sister through Christ, yijia :)
Thanks so much! Praise God!
Here are a few Bible verses with some paraphrases that can help you choose the ones that you would like to use. :)
Psalm 139:13-14 (God knows us very well)
Luke 12:7 (God loves us and we are worth very much to Him)
Psalm 139:14 (We are wonderfully made by God! We praise God!)
Jeremiah 1:5 (We are set apart and special to the Lord)
2 Cor. 5:17 (God has made us new)
Song of Songs 2:2 (We are special)
Song of Songs 4:7 (We’re beautiful to God)
1 John 4:7 (We must love everyone including ourselves)
1 Sam. 16:7 (It’s not all about how we look)
Genesis 1:27 (We’re made in our DADDY’s image!!!)
1 John 3:1 (We’re God’s children)
Jer. 29:11 (God has amazing plans for our lives)
Proverbs 31:30 (<3)
2 Cor. 5:15 (Live for Jesus Christ!)
I hope that this helps and I’m praying for your group. May the Lord guide you and your girls. Let me know if you want more verses. :)
-your sister through Christ, yijia <3
xavig said: “..adding some other bible verses :D Isaiah 43:8 John 15:18 1 Samuel 16:7 1 Peter 3:3-6 God bless!”
It’s really wonderful that you follow God and have a strong passion for loving Him! Because we love Him, we know that it doesn’t matter what others think about us, just what God thinks. But of course, in reality, it’s easier said then done.
Our closest friends should be people that help us grow in our walk with Christ and people that encourage us, lifting us up. Having non-christian is important too, but who we hang out with most, are who we become like. We may not feel like it is that way, but the temptation is greater because our mentality says, “oh, all my friends are doing it.” We say that we can be strong but time shows that the more that we hang out with negative people, the more natural it will seem to us. By no means am I saying to abandon your friends, but I’m saying to love them despite their sin. And to pray for them to Jesus, that their hearts may be fully transformed. Limit the time that you spend with them and find Christ believing friends that will help you grow in your walk with the Lord.
Telling someone about God can be difficult. Sometimes it’s even more difficult if they call themselves Christians but actually they doesn’t know what it means. My advice is to pray about it. God will reveal to the words that you need to say and you don’t have to be afraid.
Isaiah 48:17 tells us, “This is what the Lord says-your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel: “I am the Lord your God, who teaches you what is best for you, who directs you in the way you should go.”
So don’t be scared of everything that you have to say, or trying to make the perfect sentences so that nobody gets offended. Focus on loving God and talking to Him. Holy Spirit will let you know when you should speak up or stand up for God.
You can help them right now by being like Jesus no matter how different you may seem, or how left out it can get. Trust me, I know that being the Jesus follower in a group friends may not be considered cool, and at times I felt left out from others because I didn’t like to do certain things that were bad or inappropriate. It can be intimidating praying before eating lunch in the school cafeteria while nobody else does it. But God is working in your life and we have to let go of depending on ourselves, but rather depend on the Lord. Because of God, even when we feel alone, we are never alone.
Help your friends by being there for them when they need someone to talk to. This can certainly be a challenge because it is so easy to talk, talk, talk. But nobody really seems to listen in this “me first” society, or “My opinion is better than yours” society. So there for your friends and give them advice and offer to pray for them. If they reject you, kindly say, “okay” but still keep them in your prayers.
If you feel like the Lord is calling you to share the Gospel with your friends, then I would share with one person at a time, not all of them at the same time. I think it becomes more personal and that way nobody is left feeling obligated to accept Jesus because someone else or doesn’t want to accept Jesus because someone else didn’t. Pray for one specific friend and ask God to soften their heart. Ask God to prepare a good situation to share the Good News with your friend. There are certainly many different ways of sharing God’s Word with people, but it depends on what you are comfortable with too. You can let them know your testimony, or share a poem with them that you wrote about Jesus, or tell them about a prayer request that God has answered in your life. Or maybe even a situation that God has helped you through. Never pressure it on anyone. God has the perfect timing and the situation can even be used for helping you to grow in faith with God.
Rejection is what makes a lot of us afraid. I know that it makes me afraid sometimes still. But we need to know that Jesus was rejected by the world. So even if we are rejected, we are just rejected by a few friends or one friend, not the whole wide world. We need to learn to love despite how much we may be rejected. If we know that Jesus suffered for us more than we will ever have to suffer because of anyone else around us, then we can stand for God’s Word with pride. But we should boast in ourselves, or anything, except in Jesus Christ our Lord.
I will keep you and your friends in my prayers. I love you and may the light of Jesus shine through you wherever you may go! I pray the Lord will guide you and protect you.
-your sister through Christ, yijia <3
I think that’s really God that you are putting God first in your heart before anything else. You want to know what God would think about it. That’s really awesome.
But first let me just say that my opinion may be a little bias, because I don’t life scary movies and they freak me out. :p
But honestly speaking, praying is the best way to find an answer for your question. God will surely speak to you if you ask Him. Maybe not verbally, but there will be assurance in your heart and the Holy Spirit will make sure that you know the right answer.
My advice and suggestion. Yes, I do think that scary movies are okay to watch for entertainment. But the media and entertainment industry is so corrupted. I totally understand watching them for the trill of it all, but we have to think, is it helping me or destroying me in any way?
In the same way, in my situation, I like romance movies. It makes me dream about guys sometimes. And the romance movies that I watch really causes my mind to drift off to where it probably should not be. Because it leads to sin, and it’s tempting me, it probably isn’t good for me.
I think that scary movies and romance movies alike, there must be a balance of how much we watch it. We can’t watch it so much that those who around have to tell us to stop watching so many movies. This then becomes an addiction and becomes a sin in itself.
If scary movies causes you to stray from God, and you see that happening in your life, then you should cut away how much scary movies that you view. I’m not saying don’t have fun and read your Bible day in and out, but I’m saying don’t dwell in scary movies.
If any of the scary movies has any satanic stuff, I would flee and run away from it. (But then again, I’m a scaredy-cat, I run from any scary movies lol) My point is, demons and satanic things are not be joked around with. If we believe in God, and Jesus, we must believe in Satan and his demons. We choose to follow the Lord, but Satan is very real. In Jesus’ Name we are able to cast out demons. Demons have power on this earth, but God has greater power. God doesn’t want us to play with fire.
But I am not the judge and neither is your mother, God is the judge. But God also tells us to respect our parents, which is commandment number 5, the first commandment with a promise. I think you should really talk to out with your mother and tell her how you feel about it. I’m sure that your mom will give a little more input and there will be a middle-ground between you guys somewhere. :)
Pray pray pray! God will help you.
love you and praying for you, yijia
Yes, certainly, I will be keeping you in my prayers.
My advice to you is to pray about it. Talk to God and I believe that the Holy Spirit will reveal to you, what you should do.
The Bible doesn’t really mention living together with boyfriend in the Bible, so I don’t really know. But I do know that God is just God, which means that there are rules that we have to follow. But we are blessed that we have a loving God, who will always be here for us.
So really spend some time to pour your heart out to God, by telling him about your family situations and your worries. I think it’s also important whether or not your boyfriend is a believer. I know that it would definitely be awkward a little to talk to him about certain things, but it’s important to set down some kind of rules. Rules so that both of you guys actions will not lead to something bad. I think you know what I’m referring to.
Anyways, when the situation doesn’t come up, it won’t affect you too much, but if temptation is in our face sometimes, it can be difficult to resist. Tell him about your beliefs and ask him to respect them.
For guidance, God is to the first and the best person to go to. Not me. I would find someone close to you, such as a best friend or church friend that you trust to talk to. Maybe you can stay over at a girl friend’s house. That way it would easier to for you and your boyfriend to avoid temptations.
Personally, I don’t think that boyfriend and girlfriends should live under the same roof until after marriage; husband and wife. But I’m not the one to judge, ultimately, God is. So ask God to guide you now. I pray that the Lord will give you wisdom and the strength to make it through this difficult time. I love you and will continue to pray for you.<3